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Boron - Chapter 04
Here is something to remember: DEFENSIVE BEHAVIOR INVITES AGGRESSIVE ACTION!
What that means is that in life in general (and in prison in particular) there is very little sympathy for a weakling.
There's a guy here that I used to like but now he is starting to irritate me. In many ways he's nice old guy (I'll write more about him later) but he is serving a miserable 100 day sentence (maybe it's even less) and he shuffles around like a plantation nigger trying to please "Ol Massah." What's going on is plain and simple: He's scared.
Now, that's no sin. God knows I've been scared many times. But this guy stays scared when there is no need to be and it is very unattractive to watch.
Now, don't get the wrong idea and start worrying about this guy. I am very nice to him and so is everybody else. Everybody cuts him a lot of slack. This is a very "soft" place to do your time and all I want to do by describing this man's mode of behavior to you is to make a point.
The point is this: Bond, as you know, I am a very non-violent person and if this guy, by acting like such a pussy, can irritate me, just think how some hard vicious hard-nosed jerk in a real prison would be affected by him!
You see, this guy is sending out signals and those signals are saying, "I'm scared. I'm a pussy. I'm easy. I'm vulnerable." And so on.
And, unfortunately, not everybody in the world is kind or sympathetic. Some men just look for guys like this guy to prey on.
God, I'm long-winded aren't I? Anyway, finally to get to the point, what I'm trying to say is that it is far better to:
rely on your own strength
instead of somebody Else's
compassion!
And, to make the obvious point, you've obviously first got to have some strength in order to be able to rely on it.